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MOTHERHOOD, When a Child has a Disability

I am writing this thinking about some of the moms I know, love

and respect, who have children with disabilties.  Motherhood

for these women did not turn out as planned, but they adjusted, and found opportunity in the gift presented to them.


Being the mother to a child with a disability is not the end of the world, but can be a new beginning that paves the way to achieving deeper perspectives about life and value.


Society has yet to fully embrace a mother's perspective, although I have personally witnessed a lot growth since my own son was born in 1989.  Schools are more inclusive than ever before, buildings are more accessible, and society stares quite a bit less.  Children are less surprised by a person in a wheelchair, people are taking the time to learn sign language, people are more sensitive in how they approach a person who is blind, and much more welcoming in their demeanor and in their words.  


Certain expectations for a child are inherent to being a mother.  Mothers expect their children to grow up in their families, to learn how to make choices about their own lies, develop friendships and roots in their home community, to be valued human beings.  Mothers expect their children to be welcome in their neighborhood schools, eventually live in a home of their own, work in their community, and marry someone they love.


These expectations are simple enough and more importantly becoming embraced by society, and in large part because of mothers.


I am so proud to be a mother.